Deciding to move abroad for or with your partner can be an intimidating step for most people.
It can throw many curve balls at you, and you can never seem to be prepared enough for the big move. Yet, you know it is the right thing to do, and you are strong enough to face the challenges to come.
However, if your heart is already set on leaving, planning and setting the right expectations is essential. Of course, there are things you really can’t compromise on in a relationship, but you should be ready to get all of your abilities tested by the move!
Keep your mind open
Keeping your mind open is the most crucial factor to keep in mind when moving abroad for love. You and your other half might have been speaking about a temporary move or just a “pit-stop” in a country before moving onto bigger adventures together.
However, the reality is that many times the temporary situations end up becoming permanent or at least more extended in time. If you had already decided that you were both going to move after a couple of months, seeing things change rapidly can represent a significant obstacle to overcome.
Instead, keeping your mind open to many possibilities allows you to find yourself more prepared to face any last-minute turn of events.
Be ready to miss your family and friends
Being homesick is normal. Episodes of homesickness will happen to anybody who has moved to another country, for a reason or another. There is nothing you can do to stop that feeling when it decides to creep up on you. However, you might be a little better prepared to face the sad moments if you have thought of that in advance.
Keeping a cupboard filled with all the things that remind you of home and your mama’s number at hand can be hugely helpful in the case of a homesickness attack.
Some tips for surviving this mood include:
Focus on the positives
Speak about it with your partner
Focus on making new friends and experiences in the new city
Don’t call home every day, as this can prevent your from living your new life
Start a diary
Allow yourself to be comfortable on your “bad mood” days
Legalities and Language
Moving to another country or city for love is among the most exciting things you will do in your life, but you surely cannot forget about the legalities that this move involves.
Indeed, you might have to speak to your partner about the eventuality of him or her having to get a spouse visa to be able to live and work in your new city. These might be burdensome tasks to think about, but they are at the core of every big move.
Ultimately, before the moving day, learning a little more about the language and traditions of your new country can help you find new friends and jobs much faster than you expect.
While it might seem an excessive factor to think about, it can help you get back on your feet and build a new life from scratch in just a few months!